Dating...a courtship between two strangers over a meal or movie. Okay, so may be there is more to it than that but you get the jest. For me, dating wasn't something that I experienced until my mid twenties (like yesterday! lol) and it was interesting to say the least. There were definitely things that I learned, so of course I had to share them with all of you!
Movies Lie | I just want to clear the air first. Dating is nothing like the movies. You know the scene where the main characters are engaging in funny, awkward conversation and suddenly they realize that they are super into each other. Well, its definitely awkward but not so much of the falling in love at first date part. Its a process that doesn't happen in ninety minutes and while this may seem obvious, it is secretly disheartening to a rom-com movie buff.
Be Open | Change is good. New experiences are good. Step out of your comfort zone and you may be pleasantly surprised or horrified but at least you can say that you did it and you never have to do it again. Either way, take a chance on yourself and the budding opportunities around you. He may not be the One but at best, someone fun to hang out with from time to time.
Understand Your Likes/Dislikes | People always told me that dating helps you understand your preferences (in a mate) and it is absolutely true. I thought I knew the type of guy that I liked but some things have changed since stepping into the dating scene. There will be things that you never knew irritated you until its in your face and some things that you absolutely love!
Its Scary to Fall | The thought of falling in love with someone makes my stomach sink to the floor and my heart begins to race. But thats the risk that we all have to take to find some one that is really worth your while. All I can say is hang in there and love like crazy because in the end, the pay out will be worth it. Or at least I am hoping so.
Enjoy the Ride | Taking the time to invest in a relationship can be time consuming and overwhelming but remember that its not a sprint. Enjoy the time that you have with that person and the entire process in general. Don't be so quick to say you are too busy for it. Make time when you can and don't sweat it when you can't.
Don't Be Ashamed | Regardless of the age that you begin dating or the person that you decide to date, never be ashamed of that. As the kids say "do you!" and everything else will fall into place. This journey is about finding someone that is right for you, not your whole family and all your friends.
While I am by no means an expert, I have come to learn so much from dating in this short time and I can only hope that we are all open to the idea and share our experiences with others. So tell me any crazy dating stories you've had in the comments below or on Twitter @anajanetheblog.